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<\/p>\nThe first time I saw my father stand in the rain on purpose, I was seven years old. It was November in Eugene, Oregon. The kind of rain that doesn\u2019t fall so much as hang in the air, gray and cold, soaking through everything. It had been raining for eleven days straight. My mother kept saying she was going to lose her mind. I was sitting at the kitchen window, drawing on the fogged-up glass with my finger. And I saw Dad walk out the back door. He didn\u2019t have a coat on. He didn\u2019t have shoes on. He walked barefoot across our muddy backyard, past the swing set, past the dead tomato plants, all the way to the middle of the lawn.<\/p>\n
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Then he stopped. He tipped his head back. He closed his eyes. And he stood there with the rain falling on his face. I watched him for a long time. He didn\u2019t move. I put on my rain boots and went out to him. \u201cDaddy,\u201d I said. \u201cWhat are you doing? You\u2019re all wet.\u201d He opened his eyes and looked down at me. He smiled. But it was a sad smile. I didn\u2019t know yet that smiles could be sad. \u201cJust checking something, Annie girl,\u201d he said. \u201cChecking what?\u201d<\/p>\n
He held out his hand, palm up, and let the rain land in it.<\/p>\n
\u201cIt\u2019s cold,\u201d he said quietly. \u201cThe rain here is always so cold.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cIsn\u2019t rain supposed to be cold?\u201d<\/p>\n
He laughed a little.<\/p>\n
\u201cNot where I come from,\u201d he said. \u201cAt home, the rain is warm. Like bathwater. It comes in the afternoon, just for ten minutes, and then the sun comes back out, and everything steams. The whole island smells like flowers and wet dirt.\u201d He closed his eyes again. \u201cAnd you can smell the ocean before you see it. Wherever you are. Even way up in the mountains. You can always smell the ocean.\u201d<\/p>\n
I tipped my head back and closed my eyes like him. I tried to smell the ocean.<\/p>\n
All I could smell was wet grass and the neighbor\u2019s wood smoke.<\/p>\n
The back door opened. Mom was standing there in her bathrobe.<\/p>\n
\u201cKai,\u201d she said. Her voice was tight. \u201cCome inside. You\u2019ll catch your death.\u201d<\/p>\n
Dad opened his eyes. He looked at her for a moment. Something passed between them that I didn\u2019t understand.<\/p>\n
Then he picked me up and carried me inside, and he dried my hair with a dish towel, and he didn\u2019t say another word about warm rain.<\/p>\n
That night, I heard them in their bedroom. Not shouting. They never shouted. Just Mom\u2019s voice, low and shaking, and Dad\u2019s voice, very gentle.<\/p>\n
I only caught one sentence. Mom\u2019s.<\/p>\n
\u201cI can\u2019t keep hearing about it, Kai. I can\u2019t. Every time you talk about it, I feel like you\u2019re already halfway gone.\u201d<\/p>\n
My name is Annie Akana. I\u2019m twenty-six. I teach second grade at an elementary school in Springfield, Oregon, about ten minutes from the house I grew up in.<\/p>\n
My father\u2019s name was Kainoa Akana. Everybody called him Kai.<\/p>\n
He was born in Waim\u0101nalo, on the east side of O\u02bbahu, in a little green house a mile from the beach. He grew up swimming before he could walk. He grew up eating fish his uncles caught off the rocks and poi his grandmother pounded by hand. He grew up with his mother, Malia, and his little sister, Leilani, and about forty cousins who all lived within a mile of each other.<\/p>\n
He left at twenty.<\/p>\n
He got a scholarship to Oregon State. Engineering. He was the first person in his family to go to college. He flew to Portland in September with one suitcase and a lei of plumeria flowers around his neck that his mother put on him at the airport. By the time he landed, the flowers were brown.<\/p>\n
He kept them anyway. Dried. In a plastic bag. In his sock drawer. I found them when I was ten.<\/p>\n
In his junior year, he met my mother at a coffee shop in Corvallis. Linda Doyle. She was nineteen. A nursing student. Red hair, freckles, a laugh he said he could hear from across a parking lot.<\/p>\n
They got married two years later. Mom wanted to stay in Oregon. Her mother was sick. Dad got a job designing bridges for the state. They bought a little yellow house in Eugene.<\/p>\n
He never moved back.<\/p>\n
He never went back. Not to visit. Not once in thirty-one years.<\/p>\n
I was always Daddy\u2019s girl.<\/p>\n
I could tell him anything. Every secret. Every crush. Every bad grade I hid from Mom. When I broke the neighbor\u2019s window with a softball at nine, I told Dad first. When I got my heart broken at seventeen, I cried on Dad\u2019s shoulder in the garage while he fixed the lawn mower. When I decided to become a teacher instead of a doctor, which my mother had always wanted, I told Dad first, and he hugged me and said, \u201cGood. The world needs more good teachers than it needs rich doctors.\u201d<\/p>\n
But he never told me his secrets.<\/p>\n
Not the real ones.<\/p>\n
Sometimes I\u2019d come downstairs late at night and find him sitting alone at the kitchen table. Just one light on. The one over the stove. And he\u2019d be holding a photograph.<\/p>\n
It was small. Faded. Curling at the corners. A beach. White sand. Turquoise water. Big dark cliffs on one side. A little island out in the water, shaped like a turtle.<\/p>\n
He\u2019d turn it over and over in his hands. Like he was trying to read something written on the back that wasn\u2019t there.<\/p>\n
\u201cWhat\u2019s that beach?\u201d I asked once. I was twelve.<\/p>\n
\u201cMakapu\u02bbu,\u201d he said. He said it carefully, the way you say a name you love.<\/p>\n
\u201cWhat\u2019s it like there?\u201d<\/p>\n
He was quiet for a long time.<\/p>\n
\u201cThe rain is warm,\u201d he said. \u201cAnd you can smell the ocean before you see it.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI know,\u201d I said. \u201cYou always say that.\u201d<\/p>\n
He smiled.<\/p>\n
\u201cBecause it\u2019s true,\u201d he said.<\/p>\n
Somewhere in my childhood,\u00a0Hawaii<\/em>\u00a0became a word we didn\u2019t say at the dinner table.<\/p>\n I don\u2019t remember exactly when. It wasn\u2019t a rule anybody announced. It just happened. Like a draft you stop noticing in an old house.<\/p>\n If Dad mentioned it, even something small, like\u00a0we used to eat mangoes straight off the tree,<\/em>\u00a0or\u00a0my mom made the best chicken long rice,<\/em>\u00a0Mom would get up from the table. She\u2019d say she forgot something in the oven. Or she needed to check the laundry. Or she had a headache.<\/p>\n Once, when I was fourteen, Dad was telling me about how his uncles taught him to throw a net for fish off the rocks. I was laughing. Mom set down her fork so hard it bounced off her plate and hit the floor.<\/p>\n \u201cCan we please,\u201d she said, \u201cfor one dinner, not talk about how wonderful everything was before you came here?\u201d<\/p>\n The kitchen went silent.<\/p>\n Dad looked at her. Then he picked up her fork from the floor. He wiped it on his napkin. He put it back next to her plate.<\/p>\n \u201cSorry, Lin,\u201d he said quietly.<\/p>\n He never finished the story about the net.<\/p>\n I was angry at her for that. For years.<\/p>\n I couldn\u2019t stand hearing her shut him down. I couldn\u2019t understand why she took it so personally. It was his home. His childhood. His mother and his sister and his cousins. Why couldn\u2019t he even\u00a0talk<\/em>\u00a0about it?<\/p>\n \u201cShe acts like you missing Hawaii means you don\u2019t love us,\u201d I said to Dad once. I was sixteen. We were in the garage. He was changing the oil in Mom\u2019s car.<\/p>\n He didn\u2019t say anything for a while. He just kept working.<\/p>\n \u201cIt\u2019s not fair,\u201d I said. \u201cYou\u2019re allowed to miss things. She misses Grandma. She talks about her all the time.\u201d<\/p>\n Dad slid out from under the car. He sat up. He wiped his hands on a rag. He looked at me for a long time.<\/p>\n \u201cTry to understand your mother, Annie,\u201d he said.<\/p>\n \u201cI\u2019m trying. I don\u2019t get it.\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cI know you don\u2019t,\u201d he said. \u201cBut if you knew the whole story, you wouldn\u2019t be angry with her.\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cThen tell me the whole story.\u201d<\/p>\n He looked at the garage door. At the gray rain falling outside.<\/p>\n \u201cIt\u2019s not mine to tell,\u201d he said. \u201cIt\u2019s hers.\u201d<\/p>\n He slid back under the car.<\/p>\n I wish I\u2019d asked what he meant. I wish I\u2019d pushed. I wish I\u2019d gone inside right then and asked my mother.<\/p>\n I didn\u2019t. I was sixteen. I thought there\u2019d be time.<\/p>\n There were other things I noticed. Things I didn\u2019t understand until later.<\/p>\n Every December, a card came in the mail. Red envelope. Honolulu postmark. Addressed in neat, old-fashioned cursive handwriting.\u00a0Kainoa & Linda Akana.<\/em><\/p>\n Mom always got the mail first. She\u2019d look at the red envelope. Her face would close. And she\u2019d drop it in the kitchen trash. Unopened.<\/p>\n And every December, sometime that night, Dad would take it out of the trash. I saw him do it once. I was eleven, sneaking downstairs for cookies. He was standing at the trash can in the dark, carefully lifting the red envelope out from under the coffee grounds. Wiping it off with a paper towel. Putting it in the inside pocket of his work jacket.<\/p>\n He didn\u2019t see me. I went back upstairs without my cookies.<\/p>\n I never asked him about it. It felt like something I wasn\u2019t supposed to have seen.<\/p>\n Every month, on the first Sunday, Dad drove to the post office downtown. By himself. He said he was mailing bills. We paid our bills online.<\/p>\n He\u2019d come back an hour later. Quiet. He\u2019d go out to the garage for a while.<\/p>\n And every year in March, for one day, he\u2019d be different. Very quiet. Very gentle with everyone. He\u2019d go for a long walk alone. He\u2019d come back with his eyes red.<\/p>\n \u201cWhat\u2019s in March?\u201d I asked Mom once.<\/p>\n She was washing dishes. She didn\u2019t turn around.<\/p>\n \u201cHis mother\u2019s birthday,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n And that was all.<\/p>\n Two weeks ago, my father was in a car accident.<\/p>\n It was a Tuesday afternoon. Raining. Of course it was raining. A pickup truck ran a red light on Coburg Road and hit his car on the driver\u2019s side.<\/p>\n He was fifty-four.<\/p>\n They said he died before the ambulance got there. They said he didn\u2019t feel anything.<\/p>\n I was in my classroom when the principal came to my door. I was reading\u00a0Frog and Toad<\/em>\u00a0to twenty-two seven-year-olds. I remember I was in the middle of a sentence. I remember I put the book down open on my desk, and it stayed there for three days, because I didn\u2019t go back to school.<\/p>\n Mom was at the hospital when I got there. Sitting in a plastic chair in the hallway outside the ER. Still in her nurse\u2019s scrubs. She\u2019s worked at Sacred Heart for thirty years.<\/p>\n She didn\u2019t cry. She just sat there, very straight, with her hands folded in her lap.<\/p>\n \u201cHe was supposed to be at work,\u201d she said, when I sat down next to her. \u201cHe wasn\u2019t supposed to be on Coburg Road. His office is the other direction. Why was he on Coburg Road?\u201d<\/p>\n I didn\u2019t know.<\/p>\n Nobody did.<\/p>\n The funeral was the next Saturday. The whole Oregon Department of Transportation came. Engineers in suits. Guys from road crews in their good flannels. Dad had designed half the bridges in Lane County. People kept telling me that.\u00a0Your father built the bridge I drive across every single day.<\/em><\/p>\n Nobody from Hawaii came.<\/p>\n I asked Mom about it. Whether she\u2019d called anyone. His sister. His cousins.<\/p>\n She looked at me with an expression I couldn\u2019t read.<\/p>\n \u201cI don\u2019t have their numbers,\u201d she said. \u201cHe never gave them to me.\u201d<\/p>\n I didn\u2019t believe her. I didn\u2019t push. She\u2019d just buried her husband.<\/p>\n We were still trying to understand that he was gone. Still walking past his boots by the back door. Still setting three places at the table and then quietly putting one plate back.<\/p>\n Eleven days after the accident, the mail carrier rang our doorbell.<\/p>\n It was a Thursday morning. I\u2019d been staying at Mom\u2019s house since the accident. Sleeping in my old room. Neither of us could stand to be alone.<\/p>\n I opened the door. The mail carrier was standing on the porch holding a box. A big one. About three feet long. Wrapped in brown paper and covered in tape. Heavy, from the way he was holding it.<\/p>\n \u201cPackage for Kainoa Akana,\u201d he said.<\/p>\n I took it. It was heavy. I had to set it down on the floor of the front hall.<\/p>\n I looked at the label.<\/p>\n It was handwritten. In black ink. In neat, old-fashioned cursive.\u00a0Kainoa Akana.<\/em>\u00a0Our address in Eugene.<\/p>\n The postmark was Honolulu.<\/p>\n The date was three days before the accident.<\/p>\n There was no return address.<\/p>\n I stood there in the front hall looking at it.<\/p>\n Someone in Hawaii had mailed my father a package. Three days before he died. And they didn\u2019t know. They had no idea he\u2019d never open it.<\/p>\n Somewhere on an island I\u2019d never seen, someone was waiting for my father to call them back. To say he got it. To say thank you.<\/p>\n And he never would.<\/p>\n I picked it up and carried it into the kitchen. I put it on the kitchen table. Right where Dad used to sit at night with his photograph.<\/p>\n I was going to open it. Find out who sent it. Tell them what happened.<\/p>\n Mom came in from the laundry room.<\/p>\n She saw the box on the table.<\/p>\n She stopped.<\/p>\n I watched her look at the label. At the handwriting. At the Honolulu postmark.<\/p>\n And I watched all the color drain out of her face.<\/p>\n I\u2019ve seen my mother scared exactly twice in my life. Once when I was nine and had an asthma attack in the middle of the night. And once at the hospital eleven days ago.<\/p>\n This was the third time.<\/p>\n \u201cLeave it, Annie,\u201d she said.<\/p>\n \u201cMom?\u201d<\/p>\n \u201cLeave it,\u201d she said. Her voice was shaking. \u201cPlease.\u201d<\/p>\n She crossed the kitchen fast. She grabbed my wrist. Her fingers were ice cold.<\/p>\n \u201cThrow it away,\u201d she said. \u201cPlease, Annie. Just throw it away. Let\u2019s pretend it never came.\u201d<\/p>\n I stared at her.<\/p>\n \u201cMom. It\u2019s for Dad. Someone sent it to him. They don\u2019t know he\u2019s\u2014\u201d I couldn\u2019t finish.<\/p>\n \u201cI know,\u201d she said. \u201cI know. That\u2019s why. Please, honey. I can\u2019t. Not this. Not now.\u201d<\/p>\n I pulled my wrist free.<\/p>\n I couldn\u2019t do it. I couldn\u2019t throw away something that had been meant for my father. The last thing anyone would ever send him. And somewhere in Hawaii, someone might be waiting for an answer he could never give.<\/p>\n \u201cI\u2019m sorry, Mom,\u201d I said.<\/p>\n I picked up a knife from the dish rack. I cut through the tape. I peeled back the brown paper.<\/p>\n Inside, there was a cardboard box. Old. Soft at the corners. I opened the flaps.<\/p>\n The moment I saw what was inside, I covered my mouth with my hand.<\/p>\n \u201cOh God,\u201d I whispered. I stared into the box. \u201cWhat are we supposed to do with this?\u201d<\/p>\n On top, folded very carefully, there was a quilt.<\/p>\n Not a regular quilt. Not the kind from a store. I\u2019d never seen anything like it.<\/p>\n It was enormous. When I lifted the edge, it just kept going. White cotton. And sewn on top of the white, in one single piece of deep red fabric, was a pattern. Huge. Symmetrical. Like a giant paper snowflake. Leaves and curves and shapes radiating out from the center. Every edge turned under by hand. And then, all over it, thousands of tiny stitches. In rows. Following the shape of the pattern outward, like ripples spreading in water.<\/p>\n It must have taken years. Years and years.<\/p>\n Pinned to one corner, there was a note. On a piece of lined paper. In the same old-fashioned cursive as the label.<\/p>\n For Linda.<\/em><\/p>\n From Malia.<\/em><\/p>\n It took me thirty-one years. I am sorry it took so long.<\/em><\/p>\n Under the quilt, there were letters. Hundreds of them. Tied in bundles with string. Each bundle a year. I picked one up. The envelopes were all addressed to\u00a0Malia Akana, Waim\u0101nalo, Hawaii.<\/em>\u00a0In my father\u2019s handwriting.<\/p>\n Opened. Every one of them. Read so many times the paper was soft as cloth.<\/p>\n The first Sunday of every month. The post office downtown.\u00a0Mailing bills.<\/em><\/p>\n And under the letters, at the very bottom of the box, there was a wooden box. Small. Polished dark wood with a beautiful grain, gold and brown, like tiger stripes. About the size of a loaf of bread.<\/p>\n Taped to the lid, there was an envelope. Different handwriting. Rounder. Younger.<\/p>\n
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